Ok, anyone who is a Facebook friend of mine saw a certain "friend" of mine decided to debate EVERY blog I posted in an off topic and attacking sort of way. So I feel obligated to inform my blog readers of a few things.
#1- Facebook is NOT a discussion forum. It is a social networking site. For example: when someone posts "I went to Cafe Yum" they do not want to discuss it, they are just telling you that they went. However, if you do wish to discuss or clarify something I am open to discussion in a non attacking way.
#2 I blog for ME while I enjoy my followers I would blog even without them.
And last but not least, I will clarify a couple things:
#1 I do not beat my children nor do I condone the beating of children. I simply used it as an extreme for Believing what your parents say, I think that was clear....but well, apparently it was not.
#2 I do not for one second believe that people do not deserve a fair trial nor that they should all commit suicide when accused. Again, I thought I had been clear.
and #3- This blog IS NOT I repeat IS NOT directed at ANYONE....it it derived from observations in real life, and the news and television that I watch and/or read.
Thank you all for reading, and if your still here after that disruption from my self proclaimed "Aunt" I can assure you she is no longer in my friends list to project her negativity and horrible life experiences upon my blog.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Attempting to be Obese/obesity in children
My thoughts on this article may be very offensive to some....if you have a problem with it....refer to my very first blog for instructions.
OK this is just INSANE! I think there should be either A- Rules in Guinness Book of World Records that you cannot go against a doctors advice... because then what if she chooses to sue Guinness for giving her incentive to gain weight. or B- Laws against this kind of stuff perhaps impose an "obesity tax" against all those who are morbidly obese without medical reason. ok...admittedly that is a bit of an invasion of personal information but come on people!!
I am so disgusted that a MOM would TRY to be obese! Why does she not care about her child?? She can hardly walk as it is. As a mom of a child born in 2007 (just like her daughter) I could not imagine doing something that would shorten my time with her. What are people thinking to PAY this woman to eat and encourage it.....they should be charged with attempted manslaughter!! This is ridiculous, words cannot describe my absolute disgust at this.
To be obese while unacceptable there are at times excuses for it. (health, mental or IDK??) That only the obese person and their doctor would know. If you are obese and not under the care of a physician you should be....If your doctor advises you to diet and you don't know how ask for help there are dietitians and nutritionists that can help you. If there is no reason for your obesity FIX IT seriously, I know it's hard!! Just because I am blessed to be thin does not mean I eat whatever I want whenever I want and as much as I want. Nor that I do not know what it is like to try to lose a few pounds or maintain a current weight, it takes a lot of self control to say the least.
Parents of obese children are a whole nother story, aside from medical conditions and the "baby fat" phase that can last til age 2-3 (your doctor will let you know when/if your child may need a diet) parents should have consequences for allowing their child to become/stay obese. By allowing your child to consume all the food they want and not encouraging exercise or giving positive reinforcements to eat right and exercising through play. These parents are setting their children up for failure! If your child is obese when they become adults they will always have trouble keeping weight off it will be a constant battle for the rest of their lives and what kind of a life is that?!?! Even if you are used to eating a certain way and your child had a weight problem suck it up and remove the junk foods from your house, your child is worth it, are they not?? Children are known for their lack of self control, therefore as their parent it is YOUR JOB to set the meal plans and say no. Story about a girl who was obese.
Obesity is a growing trend and at this rate the movie "Wall-E"'s people really are not that farfetched. Sad reality!
OK this is just INSANE! I think there should be either A- Rules in Guinness Book of World Records that you cannot go against a doctors advice... because then what if she chooses to sue Guinness for giving her incentive to gain weight. or B- Laws against this kind of stuff perhaps impose an "obesity tax" against all those who are morbidly obese without medical reason. ok...admittedly that is a bit of an invasion of personal information but come on people!!
I am so disgusted that a MOM would TRY to be obese! Why does she not care about her child?? She can hardly walk as it is. As a mom of a child born in 2007 (just like her daughter) I could not imagine doing something that would shorten my time with her. What are people thinking to PAY this woman to eat and encourage it.....they should be charged with attempted manslaughter!! This is ridiculous, words cannot describe my absolute disgust at this.
To be obese while unacceptable there are at times excuses for it. (health, mental or IDK??) That only the obese person and their doctor would know. If you are obese and not under the care of a physician you should be....If your doctor advises you to diet and you don't know how ask for help there are dietitians and nutritionists that can help you. If there is no reason for your obesity FIX IT seriously, I know it's hard!! Just because I am blessed to be thin does not mean I eat whatever I want whenever I want and as much as I want. Nor that I do not know what it is like to try to lose a few pounds or maintain a current weight, it takes a lot of self control to say the least.
Parents of obese children are a whole nother story, aside from medical conditions and the "baby fat" phase that can last til age 2-3 (your doctor will let you know when/if your child may need a diet) parents should have consequences for allowing their child to become/stay obese. By allowing your child to consume all the food they want and not encouraging exercise or giving positive reinforcements to eat right and exercising through play. These parents are setting their children up for failure! If your child is obese when they become adults they will always have trouble keeping weight off it will be a constant battle for the rest of their lives and what kind of a life is that?!?! Even if you are used to eating a certain way and your child had a weight problem suck it up and remove the junk foods from your house, your child is worth it, are they not?? Children are known for their lack of self control, therefore as their parent it is YOUR JOB to set the meal plans and say no. Story about a girl who was obese.
Obesity is a growing trend and at this rate the movie "Wall-E"'s people really are not that farfetched. Sad reality!
Friday, May 20, 2011
Suicidal Criminals
Just a little food for thought:
Why does everyone seem so upset when the criminal commits suicide?
The way I see it,
#1 You save time and money on a trial.
#2 One less spot in prison is taken (less guards are needed) more $$ saved.
#3 They sentenced themselves....clearly they think they deserved a death sentence, and they executed it upon themselves.
Speaking namely on one who will get a life sentence and based solely on crime TV shows (Criminal minds, Law and order etc..)
Edited to add for those who cannot read between the lines that this more specifically pertains to those being caught in the act....murders, serial killers, etc...like seen on crime TV shows (the ones I watch at least.)
Why does everyone seem so upset when the criminal commits suicide?
The way I see it,
#1 You save time and money on a trial.
#2 One less spot in prison is taken (less guards are needed) more $$ saved.
#3 They sentenced themselves....clearly they think they deserved a death sentence, and they executed it upon themselves.
Speaking namely on one who will get a life sentence and based solely on crime TV shows (Criminal minds, Law and order etc..)
Edited to add for those who cannot read between the lines that this more specifically pertains to those being caught in the act....murders, serial killers, etc...like seen on crime TV shows (the ones I watch at least.)
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Hating your Parents
It's inevitable the best mom/dad ever, the worst mom/dad ever WILL be both loved and hated at some point in time. To those who continue to constantly hate their parents long into adulthood I ask 2 questions.
1-Are they continuing to do something so offensive it is unforgivable?
2-Do you hate yourself and who you are today?
I ask because if your parent(s) are not continuing to mistreat/abuse/otherwise drive you insane and you love yourself and who you are today I do not understand this logic. Your parents made you into who you are every experience you have (good or bad) has made you into the person you are today.
I have Yo-Yo'd I love my mom, but I have hated her too at times, As a teen I Hated her for being so stinkin strict, for making me stick to curfew for making me honest...along with numerous other reasons, I do not think you could have made me actually like my mom when I was a teen!! Now I look back...my mom expected quality when I swept the floors, expected responsibility for my pets I had taken on along with so many other expectations of me, I am not sure if I made her proud when I was a teen I know I gave her a lot of heartache, she worried if I would succeed and if I would be able to decipher right from wrong.
Touching base on my dad....I have gone through the same hating, loving and indifferences with him. He has been in Prison since I was about 2. I was a "daddy's girl" I love my dad, he used to tie my arms behind my back and made great crab-cakes. As a very young adult I was arrested I spent 2 days in jail...Then was the first time in my life I ever hated him. He had messed up in prison and was sentenced to additional time!! I did not understand how he could have chosen prison over me! Now I understand that this while it was a choice was due to fear of getting out, prison is all my dad knows, the world has changed so much in the last 20 years! Now, I am indifferent toward him, I love him but do not wish to re-build a relationship with someone who may never actually be able to be there.
To answer my questions of myself, I LOVE who I am today, I am hard-working, I am responsible and I am a passionate and strong willed person. My mom, dad, the military and my life experiences both good and bad have all shaped me into the person I am today.
In the eyes of a young child their parents are perfect. Through the eyes of a teen all parental figures suck! They are purely a nuisance that gets in the way of a good time. Through the eyes of a young adult who is forming who they are away from their parents, most go through bouts of loving/hating their parents when they think "why the heck did my mom do that" and other times where they remember how badly they need their parents advice and approval. Through the eyes of a first time mom your mom becomes a saint.
Now as the mom of toddlers I realize I use/need my moms advice/techniques and greatly enjoy her approval in things that I do, especially when they pertain to my children.
1-Are they continuing to do something so offensive it is unforgivable?
2-Do you hate yourself and who you are today?
I ask because if your parent(s) are not continuing to mistreat/abuse/otherwise drive you insane and you love yourself and who you are today I do not understand this logic. Your parents made you into who you are every experience you have (good or bad) has made you into the person you are today.
I have Yo-Yo'd I love my mom, but I have hated her too at times, As a teen I Hated her for being so stinkin strict, for making me stick to curfew for making me honest...along with numerous other reasons, I do not think you could have made me actually like my mom when I was a teen!! Now I look back...my mom expected quality when I swept the floors, expected responsibility for my pets I had taken on along with so many other expectations of me, I am not sure if I made her proud when I was a teen I know I gave her a lot of heartache, she worried if I would succeed and if I would be able to decipher right from wrong.
Touching base on my dad....I have gone through the same hating, loving and indifferences with him. He has been in Prison since I was about 2. I was a "daddy's girl" I love my dad, he used to tie my arms behind my back and made great crab-cakes. As a very young adult I was arrested I spent 2 days in jail...Then was the first time in my life I ever hated him. He had messed up in prison and was sentenced to additional time!! I did not understand how he could have chosen prison over me! Now I understand that this while it was a choice was due to fear of getting out, prison is all my dad knows, the world has changed so much in the last 20 years! Now, I am indifferent toward him, I love him but do not wish to re-build a relationship with someone who may never actually be able to be there.
To answer my questions of myself, I LOVE who I am today, I am hard-working, I am responsible and I am a passionate and strong willed person. My mom, dad, the military and my life experiences both good and bad have all shaped me into the person I am today.
In the eyes of a young child their parents are perfect. Through the eyes of a teen all parental figures suck! They are purely a nuisance that gets in the way of a good time. Through the eyes of a young adult who is forming who they are away from their parents, most go through bouts of loving/hating their parents when they think "why the heck did my mom do that" and other times where they remember how badly they need their parents advice and approval. Through the eyes of a first time mom your mom becomes a saint.
Now as the mom of toddlers I realize I use/need my moms advice/techniques and greatly enjoy her approval in things that I do, especially when they pertain to my children.
Children's Cartoons
Every parent (well the ones I know at least) allows their children to watch at least a little television. Unfortunately children's programming may be showing your child some terrible behaviors. It is not the fault of the television or the show if your child picks up on poor behaviors its YOURS!
Below is a break-down of my findings, This does not mean you will agree, but I HIGHLY recommend that parents watch shows WITH their children. Make sure that the messages are things you want your child to know, because in the end the manufactures of these shows does not care about your child, they care about the $$$$. If you leave the TV on as back-ground noise (which I do sometimes) pay attention to what it's playing. Children are smarter than people give them credit for they can be playing and not appear to be paying attention to the TV at all. That does not mean they are not hearing. I play Pandora radio in the background on quiet and my daughters picked up on the songs and were singing along within just a couple days, they did not appear to be listening but were picking up on differences from the way we sing the songs.
This is not all-encompasing, and your findings will be different, every family has their own standards and beliefs. The end message I want to be taken from this is....PAY ATTENTION to what you are filling your child's mind with. Sit down and discuss to show, while its on ask questions "what do you think DW should have done?" tell them what you would expect from them in the situation. Ask them what they think will happen to the snowflake as it drops to warmer air (Magic school bus) TV in and of itself is not bad, but shows thoughts and expectations should be discussed.
Below is a break-down of my findings, This does not mean you will agree, but I HIGHLY recommend that parents watch shows WITH their children. Make sure that the messages are things you want your child to know, because in the end the manufactures of these shows does not care about your child, they care about the $$$$. If you leave the TV on as back-ground noise (which I do sometimes) pay attention to what it's playing. Children are smarter than people give them credit for they can be playing and not appear to be paying attention to the TV at all. That does not mean they are not hearing. I play Pandora radio in the background on quiet and my daughters picked up on the songs and were singing along within just a couple days, they did not appear to be listening but were picking up on differences from the way we sing the songs.
This is not all-encompasing, and your findings will be different, every family has their own standards and beliefs. The end message I want to be taken from this is....PAY ATTENTION to what you are filling your child's mind with. Sit down and discuss to show, while its on ask questions "what do you think DW should have done?" tell them what you would expect from them in the situation. Ask them what they think will happen to the snowflake as it drops to warmer air (Magic school bus) TV in and of itself is not bad, but shows thoughts and expectations should be discussed.
My children May watch the following:
Arthur--- I especially like this one because the mom and dad are both present, they encourage Arthur and DW to get along, every show has a dilemma, be it with friends or a sibling rivalry etc... the parents always help them to work through their differences.
Cat in the Hat (knows a lot about that) Again, this one the kids are best-friends and they learn together about animals, they ALWAYS ask their mom if they can go with the cat to go somewhere and they learn about animals, what they do and why.
Magic school bus- LOVE this show, it teaches science in an awesome way....and also has problem solving.
Curious George- This one is just fun, George gets into trouble and makes mistakes as children do...and it's a fun monkey.
Handy Manny- he is a guy who helps out all his neighbors...his tools talk and all have their own fears. they go fix the town together Also teaches some spanish words.
My children MAY NOT watch the following:
Dora/Diego: They can do nothing for themselves, Parents are almost never present....they are out wandering at 5 yrs old...and ALWAYS "need your help" I understand the idea behind this is to get the child active instead of sedentary in front of the television...yet the manner in which it is executed is poor, and teated children that they can do nothing on their own.
Calliou- He is a VERY whiney 4 yr old, who gets his way when he whines "but mommy" the argument FOR this show (that i've heard from parents) is that kids can relate to him, but it does not show the problem solving, only that whining gets you what you want.
Yo Gabba Gabba-- I think the show is horrible and pointless, colors moving....the messages in the songs are OK...BUT GET THE CD and dance along.
Sid the Science Kid--SOME shows are OK, others are absolutely NOT. If you feel strongly about Vaccines (for example) there is a vaccine special you may not want your child to see, I basically boycott this show for giving in to propaganda.
Max and Ruby- Ruby is a bossy brat...mom and dad are never around, and poor max get the blunt end of Ruby's dictating how for him to play. Grandma comes around occasionally but she does nothing about Ruby mistreating Max.
Special Agent OSO- OMG this show is ANNOYING!! there are "3 special steps" to everything, but its stupid stuff, and so extremely dumbed down, in one show the kid (like 8YO) wants to put on a bandaid but doesn't know how---shoot, my 2yo can put on a bandaid!!! this show is a pet peeve of mine!! IDK how it is still airing!
Spongebob- THIS IS NOT NOT NOT a kid show....that is all!
Occasionally OK:
Super Why- sounding out words, correcting stories and dilemmas, this one I like, but I feel that it dumbs down and under-estimates the young brain.
Mickey mouse club-house--this one I am indifferent about, I am not against the show but I do not really enjoy it...My 3 YO has learned to count by 10's from this one.
Monday, May 16, 2011
FAIL
OK So in my attempt to reduce the drama on FB I started a blog, but in order to get people to read my blog I posted it to FB....see the problem??
Passing the Buck
Many of my posts will be directly related to parenting, I am very passionate about parents actually acting like parents. In an attempt to be as minimally offensive as possible I will add a disclaimer that this is NOT directed at anyone in particular and is just my ramblings.
I most certainly advocate for directing and teaching your children to be contributing members of society. You cannot blame your child for their lack of behavior, or for not listening. That falls solely on the parents (or grandparents).
I once went to a pre-school function and one parent (if she can actually be called that) whined to the teacher "T's not listening" UMM Excuse me woman, he is YOUR son....Step up and act like it. Same mother on yet another occasion said "T needs a drink can you get him one!" yes the exclamation was correct there, it was not a question it was an annoyed statement as she sat on her butt and acted annoyed that the world was not catering to her.
In Goodwill, a 3 yr old and her mom are shopping, mom takes a phone call from dad and says "YOUR daughter isn't listening and won't leave the store" soon as the call is over she offers the child who is whining and crying and begging for a toy "I'll buy it if we leave now we are already late can we please go" this was NOT enough for this child....who insisted on yet another treat before she would head to the front of the store. In the end the child got 2 new toys AND still had to be dragged to the front of the store.
Yet another time more recently I was at the library and a mother with her child on a leash (keeping your child safe is one thing, but when they crawl on the floor like a puppy,you are yanking them back and they happen to be wearing wearing a toddler leash I will not refer to those in a polite manner) these are MUCH more civil they are just to save moms back from bending and are essentially like holding hands. Back to the point though, this leashed child was pulling at his harness and crying out as the mom pulled(well more yanked) him back and pleaded with him to stop. Perhaps if she had offered him a bone and barked "heel" at him she would have gotten a better response?? (ok that last part was a joke, but so was her "parenting" technique.)
And one last instance again the setting is the library, Grandma says "If you don't come on now we wont be able to come to the library again, we are leaving" GUESS WHAT the next friday they were there again.....SAME grandma says "I'm not going to chase you" as she chases her grandson through the library.
In the weeks to come I will be surveying school principals because someone brought to my attention that not parenting is not becoming more common, and I beg to differ. What would I know?!? I am only a mother and I only live in ONE area.....My goal is at least one principal in every state, If you have a particular school you would like me to call, name it in the comment section and I will research the number and call them.
I most certainly advocate for directing and teaching your children to be contributing members of society. You cannot blame your child for their lack of behavior, or for not listening. That falls solely on the parents (or grandparents).
I once went to a pre-school function and one parent (if she can actually be called that) whined to the teacher "T's not listening" UMM Excuse me woman, he is YOUR son....Step up and act like it. Same mother on yet another occasion said "T needs a drink can you get him one!" yes the exclamation was correct there, it was not a question it was an annoyed statement as she sat on her butt and acted annoyed that the world was not catering to her.
In Goodwill, a 3 yr old and her mom are shopping, mom takes a phone call from dad and says "YOUR daughter isn't listening and won't leave the store" soon as the call is over she offers the child who is whining and crying and begging for a toy "I'll buy it if we leave now we are already late can we please go" this was NOT enough for this child....who insisted on yet another treat before she would head to the front of the store. In the end the child got 2 new toys AND still had to be dragged to the front of the store.
Yet another time more recently I was at the library and a mother with her child on a leash (keeping your child safe is one thing, but when they crawl on the floor like a puppy,you are yanking them back and they happen to be wearing wearing a toddler leash I will not refer to those in a polite manner) these are MUCH more civil they are just to save moms back from bending and are essentially like holding hands. Back to the point though, this leashed child was pulling at his harness and crying out as the mom pulled(well more yanked) him back and pleaded with him to stop. Perhaps if she had offered him a bone and barked "heel" at him she would have gotten a better response?? (ok that last part was a joke, but so was her "parenting" technique.)
And one last instance again the setting is the library, Grandma says "If you don't come on now we wont be able to come to the library again, we are leaving" GUESS WHAT the next friday they were there again.....SAME grandma says "I'm not going to chase you" as she chases her grandson through the library.
In the weeks to come I will be surveying school principals because someone brought to my attention that not parenting is not becoming more common, and I beg to differ. What would I know?!? I am only a mother and I only live in ONE area.....My goal is at least one principal in every state, If you have a particular school you would like me to call, name it in the comment section and I will research the number and call them.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Consider Yourself Warned!!
I have thoughts!! Big surprise huh? Point being I annoy people on a somewhat regular basis. If you are easily bothered by those who think differently than yourself this is not a good read for you. HOWEVER if you can understand that however cool your thoughts may be that some peoples thoughts differ from yours. And can engage civilly if you wish to disagree please continue.
I have been told I need to sugar-coat things, or say them in a round about way....well guess what, I haven't the slightest clue how to actually do that! So...all shields are down, the attempted filters are out and here are my pure somewhat abrasive thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
I have been told I need to sugar-coat things, or say them in a round about way....well guess what, I haven't the slightest clue how to actually do that! So...all shields are down, the attempted filters are out and here are my pure somewhat abrasive thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
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