Perhaps something that bothers me, more than many other things do. People, who call PETS "fur babies" Actually, I take that back, the term, in and of itself does not bother me. It's people who take it literally.
-those who buy strollers for their cats/dogs. because uhhh, IDK the point of a walk is for EXERCISE, which your chihuahua is not getting in the comfort of his stroller.
- the moby wraps for PETS. Yeah, those really exist! people like their pets close to their heart I guess.
- Those who bring a dog/cat to the GROCERY story, so people like my dad can have an allergic reaction to the fur that sheds nastily everywhere.
-those barking annoying pets that are left in the car.
-Cats going with you on trips (no!! that wasn't a crazy cat lady convention).
I promise you he would survive with a litter box, a large bowl of food and water....for quite some time actually.
-the list goes on.....and on, and on!!
Your pets are not your "grand kids" "babies" etc... they are PETS they will always be pets heres why (for those who need help differentiating): If your dog gets really sick, bites someone, begins pissing on everything you will get rid of it or better yet have it put down. <<see the difference? If your real child/baby gets sick, you will do everything to save them, if they get hit by a car you will not weigh cost over just putting them down. If they pee on everything in sight you will likely put them in a kennel 'til they are potty trained, if that doesn't work next step=death (IMO, but i guess you could re-home to save yourself the guilt) either way, that is not a decision you would have to face if it was your child. Unlike children it is not illegal to leave your pet at home for extended lengths of time. <<see, even the law agrees with me :D
I guess there are those select few who are really delusional who would live with peed on things in a ditch in order to "save their "fur babies" these people are SICK, literally, they need meds, and psychotherapy So to all the healthy and normal people out there I suggest you begin calling them what they are....PETS. Furry little companions.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
"We"
It bugs me so badly when parents use the term "We" when speaking of their child.
"we just got our first tooth"
-um, no YOU didn't your son did.
if you want to use "we" you could say "We survived Kaleb's first tooth" <<thus acknowledging yourself in your child's accomplishment because lets face it, teething is hard on all of us!!
"We just got our first haircut"
-hope you donated yours to locks of love!! I bet that was some LOOOOOONNNNGGG hair!!
Again if you want to use "we" say "we just got back from the barber Kaleb got his first haircut" <<again, you were there, but it was not your haircut.
"We have our first recital today"
- No, Kelsi has her first recital, you will just be in attendance.
you could say "so excited for Kelsi's recital today"
More examples:
"We just took our first steps."
"We just rolled over for the first time."
"We're crawling" <oddly enough this may be true, since you do crawl when your child does, but really, it's not that spectacular that you do it!
The reason this bothers me so badly is I feel that this wording is undermining your child's accomplishment and making it your own. YOUR CHILD just took his first steps, just crawled, just rolled over, YOU did not.
"we just got our first tooth"
-um, no YOU didn't your son did.
if you want to use "we" you could say "We survived Kaleb's first tooth" <<thus acknowledging yourself in your child's accomplishment because lets face it, teething is hard on all of us!!
"We just got our first haircut"
-hope you donated yours to locks of love!! I bet that was some LOOOOOONNNNGGG hair!!
Again if you want to use "we" say "we just got back from the barber Kaleb got his first haircut" <<again, you were there, but it was not your haircut.
"We have our first recital today"
- No, Kelsi has her first recital, you will just be in attendance.
you could say "so excited for Kelsi's recital today"
More examples:
"We just took our first steps."
"We just rolled over for the first time."
"We're crawling" <oddly enough this may be true, since you do crawl when your child does, but really, it's not that spectacular that you do it!
The reason this bothers me so badly is I feel that this wording is undermining your child's accomplishment and making it your own. YOUR CHILD just took his first steps, just crawled, just rolled over, YOU did not.
Toddlers in Tiaras
Need I say more??
This is wrong on so many levels, and yet I watch for the sheer shock of it. These little girls are dolled up and they almost all hate the glam.
quotes(or close to) from the show
"she loves it" as she screams and cries while her hair make up spray tan etc.. are done. Yeah, thats love (eyeroll)
"she won't be competitive without a spray tan"
Are you freaking kidding me?!?! how is a 7 yr old not pretty enough with out a spray tan??
"she went to bed at 1 and got up at 6 her daddy just went to get her a little cocktail of juice, energy drink and a little cola" UHHH really, you are going to give your 4 yr old energy drink and cola so she won't need a nap?? healthy! (not to mention it was brought to her in a baby bottle)
"it doesn't matter if you can breath or not, it only matters if you look beautiful"
:O enough said!!
The thing that bugs me most, these little children have to be so focused on glam and beauty and that all the parents care about that many are not yet potty trained(one said that it was easier for them to go in a pull up because using the potty glammed up was too much of a hassle) Many also still take a pacifier and a bottle even at 4-5-6 yrs old. These parents need to get their priorities in line!!
This is wrong on so many levels, and yet I watch for the sheer shock of it. These little girls are dolled up and they almost all hate the glam.
quotes(or close to) from the show
"she loves it" as she screams and cries while her hair make up spray tan etc.. are done. Yeah, thats love (eyeroll)
"she won't be competitive without a spray tan"
Are you freaking kidding me?!?! how is a 7 yr old not pretty enough with out a spray tan??
"she went to bed at 1 and got up at 6 her daddy just went to get her a little cocktail of juice, energy drink and a little cola" UHHH really, you are going to give your 4 yr old energy drink and cola so she won't need a nap?? healthy! (not to mention it was brought to her in a baby bottle)
"it doesn't matter if you can breath or not, it only matters if you look beautiful"
:O enough said!!
The thing that bugs me most, these little children have to be so focused on glam and beauty and that all the parents care about that many are not yet potty trained(one said that it was easier for them to go in a pull up because using the potty glammed up was too much of a hassle) Many also still take a pacifier and a bottle even at 4-5-6 yrs old. These parents need to get their priorities in line!!
Friday, June 24, 2011
Sorry about that!!
I just got an E-mail telling me
"Oops - we may have sent you an email you didn't ask for"
Are you freaking serious!! So now, because you accidentally sent me ONE email I wasn't asking for I get to have TWO?? Where is the logic in that?? Just Sayin'
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Drink+Drive= DIE!! Simple math right?
As many people know the jackass movie star, Ryan Dunn died in a car accident. Now, the toxicology report has not yet come back, so It's possible he was not actually drunk. Though he posted a photo of himself drinking just hours before his death on twitter. I fully believe he was drunk (likely well over the legal limit), if he was not, I will eat my words.
So many people are saying such thing as "it's sad" "he made a mistake" "Poor guy" etc...etc... all over FB. This annoys the shit out of me....really it does. If I were to post something in relation to his death it would be to the effect of "I hope my family and friends are smart enough to not drink and drive...." or "Glad he only killed himself and his drunk passenger and not an innocent family" <<ok that last one was a bit harsh. I am annoyed with the media for not taking the chance to re-educate the public on the seriousness of drinking and driving, possibly sighting resources (calling a cab, a friend(not a drunk one) shoot anything) He did NOT make a mistake....drinking and driving is a conscious decision...have a freaking plan BEFORE you go out drinking, have you never heard the term DD?? it stands for DESIGNATED DRIVER, this is a person who comes along with you while you drink or is on speed dial in your phone....they are there to drive you home, they are sober.... I am SURE that Ryan Dunn probably had a few (or more than a few) fans who quite literally would have paid him for a ride home....For those of you without a fan base there are cabs, for those without cabs, you have feet.....really, here are no excuses for DUI.
Yes, it is always sad to lose a loved one, But sorry to announce to my family and friends, if you kill yourself while drunk driving, I will be sad, but you will still be the idiot who drank and drove....I will not sympathize with you.
So many people are saying such thing as "it's sad" "he made a mistake" "Poor guy" etc...etc... all over FB. This annoys the shit out of me....really it does. If I were to post something in relation to his death it would be to the effect of "I hope my family and friends are smart enough to not drink and drive...." or "Glad he only killed himself and his drunk passenger and not an innocent family" <<ok that last one was a bit harsh. I am annoyed with the media for not taking the chance to re-educate the public on the seriousness of drinking and driving, possibly sighting resources (calling a cab, a friend(not a drunk one) shoot anything) He did NOT make a mistake....drinking and driving is a conscious decision...have a freaking plan BEFORE you go out drinking, have you never heard the term DD?? it stands for DESIGNATED DRIVER, this is a person who comes along with you while you drink or is on speed dial in your phone....they are there to drive you home, they are sober.... I am SURE that Ryan Dunn probably had a few (or more than a few) fans who quite literally would have paid him for a ride home....For those of you without a fan base there are cabs, for those without cabs, you have feet.....really, here are no excuses for DUI.
Yes, it is always sad to lose a loved one, But sorry to announce to my family and friends, if you kill yourself while drunk driving, I will be sad, but you will still be the idiot who drank and drove....I will not sympathize with you.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Leaving an infant alone in a car
This story is one that angers me on so many levels....Every year springtime rolls around and the news there are stories of infants and young children who die of hyperthermia from being left in a car. They cook to death!! With your child securely strapped in they cannot rescue themselves. Cannot get out of the car so they are trapped to die a torturous death because you "forgot" or were too lazy to take them out to put them back in. 3 things about this really get me mad.
#1 There is NO excuse NONE for leaving an infant/young child alone in a car not even for a minute. We all know that 1 minute can easily become 5-10+ You can become distracted by a phone call or numerous other things.
#2 What a horrific way to die!! Have you ever just say in a car even on a cool day while the sun is beating down? it gets hot FAST and with no circulation you begin to feel like you are suffocating not to mention you are sweating and dehydrating.
#3 Often the excuse you read is "I thought mom had them" or "I didn't know I had my baby today" or even "they were sleeping and I didn't want to wake them so I went inside and accidentally forgot" The biggest flaw in this is how much longer does it take to CHECK THE CAR SEAT? I mean really!! I used to work full time, we had a car seat in my car and one in my husbands, EVERY DAY before I would walk into work I made it a habit to look at the car seat....I knew I had not taken her with me just in case for some unknown reason my husband had snuck out and thrown her in the car I could rest assured knowing she was not cooking in the car seat with no way to move.
#1 There is NO excuse NONE for leaving an infant/young child alone in a car not even for a minute. We all know that 1 minute can easily become 5-10+ You can become distracted by a phone call or numerous other things.
#2 What a horrific way to die!! Have you ever just say in a car even on a cool day while the sun is beating down? it gets hot FAST and with no circulation you begin to feel like you are suffocating not to mention you are sweating and dehydrating.
#3 Often the excuse you read is "I thought mom had them" or "I didn't know I had my baby today" or even "they were sleeping and I didn't want to wake them so I went inside and accidentally forgot" The biggest flaw in this is how much longer does it take to CHECK THE CAR SEAT? I mean really!! I used to work full time, we had a car seat in my car and one in my husbands, EVERY DAY before I would walk into work I made it a habit to look at the car seat....I knew I had not taken her with me just in case for some unknown reason my husband had snuck out and thrown her in the car I could rest assured knowing she was not cooking in the car seat with no way to move.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Going out while Sick
This has always been a point of frustration with me.
If you are sick, STAY HOME, If your child is sick KEEP THEM HOME.
Seriously people, Is it too much to ask to not take your coughing, sneezy, slobbery, snotty nosed self out in public?? Now FTR I'm not speaking of trips to the doctors office, trips to the pharmacy or emergency shopping trips for medications, pedialyte or an easy to eat while sick meal. I am speaking of those people who take their coughing, sneezing, green nastiness, obviously sick all over the place self and/or child to library time, to a playground or to a store for a non-necesity trip. You do not NEED to go to the thrift store when you are sick!! Nor do you need a hair cut, manicure or tan. Your child will not be missed at the library their birthday party can be put off and you do not need to attend your friends-cousins-uncles birthday party, I can assure they do not want your germs as a gift and they may just thank you for calling and canceling!!
When I see a sick person in public (at St Vinnies, at Goodwill, at the Spa, etc...) I can't help but think they must really not care about the health of others (namely young children, the elderly and those with compromised immune systems.)
We are a very healthy family (have only been sick 4x in the past 12 months which is excellent considering on average children get 6-10 colds/flu's per year) you put ANYONE in a closed room (ie library time) with an obviously sick child and one of the 5 of us that goes is likely to get sick.... and if one of my 2 daughters gets it then the other will because they share a room.
I am especially passionate about this now because my 2 yr old has "respiratory distress syndrome" which basically means that when she gets sick she gets asthma like symptoms which could land her in the hospital.
Anyhow--Rant Over PLEASE KEEP YOUR SICKIES AT HOME.
If you are sick, STAY HOME, If your child is sick KEEP THEM HOME.
Seriously people, Is it too much to ask to not take your coughing, sneezy, slobbery, snotty nosed self out in public?? Now FTR I'm not speaking of trips to the doctors office, trips to the pharmacy or emergency shopping trips for medications, pedialyte or an easy to eat while sick meal. I am speaking of those people who take their coughing, sneezing, green nastiness, obviously sick all over the place self and/or child to library time, to a playground or to a store for a non-necesity trip. You do not NEED to go to the thrift store when you are sick!! Nor do you need a hair cut, manicure or tan. Your child will not be missed at the library their birthday party can be put off and you do not need to attend your friends-cousins-uncles birthday party, I can assure they do not want your germs as a gift and they may just thank you for calling and canceling!!
When I see a sick person in public (at St Vinnies, at Goodwill, at the Spa, etc...) I can't help but think they must really not care about the health of others (namely young children, the elderly and those with compromised immune systems.)
We are a very healthy family (have only been sick 4x in the past 12 months which is excellent considering on average children get 6-10 colds/flu's per year) you put ANYONE in a closed room (ie library time) with an obviously sick child and one of the 5 of us that goes is likely to get sick.... and if one of my 2 daughters gets it then the other will because they share a room.
I am especially passionate about this now because my 2 yr old has "respiratory distress syndrome" which basically means that when she gets sick she gets asthma like symptoms which could land her in the hospital.
Anyhow--Rant Over PLEASE KEEP YOUR SICKIES AT HOME.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Holy crap!
Ok, anyone who is a Facebook friend of mine saw a certain "friend" of mine decided to debate EVERY blog I posted in an off topic and attacking sort of way. So I feel obligated to inform my blog readers of a few things.
#1- Facebook is NOT a discussion forum. It is a social networking site. For example: when someone posts "I went to Cafe Yum" they do not want to discuss it, they are just telling you that they went. However, if you do wish to discuss or clarify something I am open to discussion in a non attacking way.
#2 I blog for ME while I enjoy my followers I would blog even without them.
And last but not least, I will clarify a couple things:
#1 I do not beat my children nor do I condone the beating of children. I simply used it as an extreme for Believing what your parents say, I think that was clear....but well, apparently it was not.
#2 I do not for one second believe that people do not deserve a fair trial nor that they should all commit suicide when accused. Again, I thought I had been clear.
and #3- This blog IS NOT I repeat IS NOT directed at ANYONE....it it derived from observations in real life, and the news and television that I watch and/or read.
Thank you all for reading, and if your still here after that disruption from my self proclaimed "Aunt" I can assure you she is no longer in my friends list to project her negativity and horrible life experiences upon my blog.
#1- Facebook is NOT a discussion forum. It is a social networking site. For example: when someone posts "I went to Cafe Yum" they do not want to discuss it, they are just telling you that they went. However, if you do wish to discuss or clarify something I am open to discussion in a non attacking way.
#2 I blog for ME while I enjoy my followers I would blog even without them.
And last but not least, I will clarify a couple things:
#1 I do not beat my children nor do I condone the beating of children. I simply used it as an extreme for Believing what your parents say, I think that was clear....but well, apparently it was not.
#2 I do not for one second believe that people do not deserve a fair trial nor that they should all commit suicide when accused. Again, I thought I had been clear.
and #3- This blog IS NOT I repeat IS NOT directed at ANYONE....it it derived from observations in real life, and the news and television that I watch and/or read.
Thank you all for reading, and if your still here after that disruption from my self proclaimed "Aunt" I can assure you she is no longer in my friends list to project her negativity and horrible life experiences upon my blog.
Attempting to be Obese/obesity in children
My thoughts on this article may be very offensive to some....if you have a problem with it....refer to my very first blog for instructions.
OK this is just INSANE! I think there should be either A- Rules in Guinness Book of World Records that you cannot go against a doctors advice... because then what if she chooses to sue Guinness for giving her incentive to gain weight. or B- Laws against this kind of stuff perhaps impose an "obesity tax" against all those who are morbidly obese without medical reason. ok...admittedly that is a bit of an invasion of personal information but come on people!!
I am so disgusted that a MOM would TRY to be obese! Why does she not care about her child?? She can hardly walk as it is. As a mom of a child born in 2007 (just like her daughter) I could not imagine doing something that would shorten my time with her. What are people thinking to PAY this woman to eat and encourage it.....they should be charged with attempted manslaughter!! This is ridiculous, words cannot describe my absolute disgust at this.
To be obese while unacceptable there are at times excuses for it. (health, mental or IDK??) That only the obese person and their doctor would know. If you are obese and not under the care of a physician you should be....If your doctor advises you to diet and you don't know how ask for help there are dietitians and nutritionists that can help you. If there is no reason for your obesity FIX IT seriously, I know it's hard!! Just because I am blessed to be thin does not mean I eat whatever I want whenever I want and as much as I want. Nor that I do not know what it is like to try to lose a few pounds or maintain a current weight, it takes a lot of self control to say the least.
Parents of obese children are a whole nother story, aside from medical conditions and the "baby fat" phase that can last til age 2-3 (your doctor will let you know when/if your child may need a diet) parents should have consequences for allowing their child to become/stay obese. By allowing your child to consume all the food they want and not encouraging exercise or giving positive reinforcements to eat right and exercising through play. These parents are setting their children up for failure! If your child is obese when they become adults they will always have trouble keeping weight off it will be a constant battle for the rest of their lives and what kind of a life is that?!?! Even if you are used to eating a certain way and your child had a weight problem suck it up and remove the junk foods from your house, your child is worth it, are they not?? Children are known for their lack of self control, therefore as their parent it is YOUR JOB to set the meal plans and say no. Story about a girl who was obese.
Obesity is a growing trend and at this rate the movie "Wall-E"'s people really are not that farfetched. Sad reality!
OK this is just INSANE! I think there should be either A- Rules in Guinness Book of World Records that you cannot go against a doctors advice... because then what if she chooses to sue Guinness for giving her incentive to gain weight. or B- Laws against this kind of stuff perhaps impose an "obesity tax" against all those who are morbidly obese without medical reason. ok...admittedly that is a bit of an invasion of personal information but come on people!!
I am so disgusted that a MOM would TRY to be obese! Why does she not care about her child?? She can hardly walk as it is. As a mom of a child born in 2007 (just like her daughter) I could not imagine doing something that would shorten my time with her. What are people thinking to PAY this woman to eat and encourage it.....they should be charged with attempted manslaughter!! This is ridiculous, words cannot describe my absolute disgust at this.
To be obese while unacceptable there are at times excuses for it. (health, mental or IDK??) That only the obese person and their doctor would know. If you are obese and not under the care of a physician you should be....If your doctor advises you to diet and you don't know how ask for help there are dietitians and nutritionists that can help you. If there is no reason for your obesity FIX IT seriously, I know it's hard!! Just because I am blessed to be thin does not mean I eat whatever I want whenever I want and as much as I want. Nor that I do not know what it is like to try to lose a few pounds or maintain a current weight, it takes a lot of self control to say the least.
Parents of obese children are a whole nother story, aside from medical conditions and the "baby fat" phase that can last til age 2-3 (your doctor will let you know when/if your child may need a diet) parents should have consequences for allowing their child to become/stay obese. By allowing your child to consume all the food they want and not encouraging exercise or giving positive reinforcements to eat right and exercising through play. These parents are setting their children up for failure! If your child is obese when they become adults they will always have trouble keeping weight off it will be a constant battle for the rest of their lives and what kind of a life is that?!?! Even if you are used to eating a certain way and your child had a weight problem suck it up and remove the junk foods from your house, your child is worth it, are they not?? Children are known for their lack of self control, therefore as their parent it is YOUR JOB to set the meal plans and say no. Story about a girl who was obese.
Obesity is a growing trend and at this rate the movie "Wall-E"'s people really are not that farfetched. Sad reality!
Friday, May 20, 2011
Suicidal Criminals
Just a little food for thought:
Why does everyone seem so upset when the criminal commits suicide?
The way I see it,
#1 You save time and money on a trial.
#2 One less spot in prison is taken (less guards are needed) more $$ saved.
#3 They sentenced themselves....clearly they think they deserved a death sentence, and they executed it upon themselves.
Speaking namely on one who will get a life sentence and based solely on crime TV shows (Criminal minds, Law and order etc..)
Edited to add for those who cannot read between the lines that this more specifically pertains to those being caught in the act....murders, serial killers, etc...like seen on crime TV shows (the ones I watch at least.)
Why does everyone seem so upset when the criminal commits suicide?
The way I see it,
#1 You save time and money on a trial.
#2 One less spot in prison is taken (less guards are needed) more $$ saved.
#3 They sentenced themselves....clearly they think they deserved a death sentence, and they executed it upon themselves.
Speaking namely on one who will get a life sentence and based solely on crime TV shows (Criminal minds, Law and order etc..)
Edited to add for those who cannot read between the lines that this more specifically pertains to those being caught in the act....murders, serial killers, etc...like seen on crime TV shows (the ones I watch at least.)
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Hating your Parents
It's inevitable the best mom/dad ever, the worst mom/dad ever WILL be both loved and hated at some point in time. To those who continue to constantly hate their parents long into adulthood I ask 2 questions.
1-Are they continuing to do something so offensive it is unforgivable?
2-Do you hate yourself and who you are today?
I ask because if your parent(s) are not continuing to mistreat/abuse/otherwise drive you insane and you love yourself and who you are today I do not understand this logic. Your parents made you into who you are every experience you have (good or bad) has made you into the person you are today.
I have Yo-Yo'd I love my mom, but I have hated her too at times, As a teen I Hated her for being so stinkin strict, for making me stick to curfew for making me honest...along with numerous other reasons, I do not think you could have made me actually like my mom when I was a teen!! Now I look back...my mom expected quality when I swept the floors, expected responsibility for my pets I had taken on along with so many other expectations of me, I am not sure if I made her proud when I was a teen I know I gave her a lot of heartache, she worried if I would succeed and if I would be able to decipher right from wrong.
Touching base on my dad....I have gone through the same hating, loving and indifferences with him. He has been in Prison since I was about 2. I was a "daddy's girl" I love my dad, he used to tie my arms behind my back and made great crab-cakes. As a very young adult I was arrested I spent 2 days in jail...Then was the first time in my life I ever hated him. He had messed up in prison and was sentenced to additional time!! I did not understand how he could have chosen prison over me! Now I understand that this while it was a choice was due to fear of getting out, prison is all my dad knows, the world has changed so much in the last 20 years! Now, I am indifferent toward him, I love him but do not wish to re-build a relationship with someone who may never actually be able to be there.
To answer my questions of myself, I LOVE who I am today, I am hard-working, I am responsible and I am a passionate and strong willed person. My mom, dad, the military and my life experiences both good and bad have all shaped me into the person I am today.
In the eyes of a young child their parents are perfect. Through the eyes of a teen all parental figures suck! They are purely a nuisance that gets in the way of a good time. Through the eyes of a young adult who is forming who they are away from their parents, most go through bouts of loving/hating their parents when they think "why the heck did my mom do that" and other times where they remember how badly they need their parents advice and approval. Through the eyes of a first time mom your mom becomes a saint.
Now as the mom of toddlers I realize I use/need my moms advice/techniques and greatly enjoy her approval in things that I do, especially when they pertain to my children.
1-Are they continuing to do something so offensive it is unforgivable?
2-Do you hate yourself and who you are today?
I ask because if your parent(s) are not continuing to mistreat/abuse/otherwise drive you insane and you love yourself and who you are today I do not understand this logic. Your parents made you into who you are every experience you have (good or bad) has made you into the person you are today.
I have Yo-Yo'd I love my mom, but I have hated her too at times, As a teen I Hated her for being so stinkin strict, for making me stick to curfew for making me honest...along with numerous other reasons, I do not think you could have made me actually like my mom when I was a teen!! Now I look back...my mom expected quality when I swept the floors, expected responsibility for my pets I had taken on along with so many other expectations of me, I am not sure if I made her proud when I was a teen I know I gave her a lot of heartache, she worried if I would succeed and if I would be able to decipher right from wrong.
Touching base on my dad....I have gone through the same hating, loving and indifferences with him. He has been in Prison since I was about 2. I was a "daddy's girl" I love my dad, he used to tie my arms behind my back and made great crab-cakes. As a very young adult I was arrested I spent 2 days in jail...Then was the first time in my life I ever hated him. He had messed up in prison and was sentenced to additional time!! I did not understand how he could have chosen prison over me! Now I understand that this while it was a choice was due to fear of getting out, prison is all my dad knows, the world has changed so much in the last 20 years! Now, I am indifferent toward him, I love him but do not wish to re-build a relationship with someone who may never actually be able to be there.
To answer my questions of myself, I LOVE who I am today, I am hard-working, I am responsible and I am a passionate and strong willed person. My mom, dad, the military and my life experiences both good and bad have all shaped me into the person I am today.
In the eyes of a young child their parents are perfect. Through the eyes of a teen all parental figures suck! They are purely a nuisance that gets in the way of a good time. Through the eyes of a young adult who is forming who they are away from their parents, most go through bouts of loving/hating their parents when they think "why the heck did my mom do that" and other times where they remember how badly they need their parents advice and approval. Through the eyes of a first time mom your mom becomes a saint.
Now as the mom of toddlers I realize I use/need my moms advice/techniques and greatly enjoy her approval in things that I do, especially when they pertain to my children.
Children's Cartoons
Every parent (well the ones I know at least) allows their children to watch at least a little television. Unfortunately children's programming may be showing your child some terrible behaviors. It is not the fault of the television or the show if your child picks up on poor behaviors its YOURS!
Below is a break-down of my findings, This does not mean you will agree, but I HIGHLY recommend that parents watch shows WITH their children. Make sure that the messages are things you want your child to know, because in the end the manufactures of these shows does not care about your child, they care about the $$$$. If you leave the TV on as back-ground noise (which I do sometimes) pay attention to what it's playing. Children are smarter than people give them credit for they can be playing and not appear to be paying attention to the TV at all. That does not mean they are not hearing. I play Pandora radio in the background on quiet and my daughters picked up on the songs and were singing along within just a couple days, they did not appear to be listening but were picking up on differences from the way we sing the songs.
This is not all-encompasing, and your findings will be different, every family has their own standards and beliefs. The end message I want to be taken from this is....PAY ATTENTION to what you are filling your child's mind with. Sit down and discuss to show, while its on ask questions "what do you think DW should have done?" tell them what you would expect from them in the situation. Ask them what they think will happen to the snowflake as it drops to warmer air (Magic school bus) TV in and of itself is not bad, but shows thoughts and expectations should be discussed.
Below is a break-down of my findings, This does not mean you will agree, but I HIGHLY recommend that parents watch shows WITH their children. Make sure that the messages are things you want your child to know, because in the end the manufactures of these shows does not care about your child, they care about the $$$$. If you leave the TV on as back-ground noise (which I do sometimes) pay attention to what it's playing. Children are smarter than people give them credit for they can be playing and not appear to be paying attention to the TV at all. That does not mean they are not hearing. I play Pandora radio in the background on quiet and my daughters picked up on the songs and were singing along within just a couple days, they did not appear to be listening but were picking up on differences from the way we sing the songs.
This is not all-encompasing, and your findings will be different, every family has their own standards and beliefs. The end message I want to be taken from this is....PAY ATTENTION to what you are filling your child's mind with. Sit down and discuss to show, while its on ask questions "what do you think DW should have done?" tell them what you would expect from them in the situation. Ask them what they think will happen to the snowflake as it drops to warmer air (Magic school bus) TV in and of itself is not bad, but shows thoughts and expectations should be discussed.
My children May watch the following:
Arthur--- I especially like this one because the mom and dad are both present, they encourage Arthur and DW to get along, every show has a dilemma, be it with friends or a sibling rivalry etc... the parents always help them to work through their differences.
Cat in the Hat (knows a lot about that) Again, this one the kids are best-friends and they learn together about animals, they ALWAYS ask their mom if they can go with the cat to go somewhere and they learn about animals, what they do and why.
Magic school bus- LOVE this show, it teaches science in an awesome way....and also has problem solving.
Curious George- This one is just fun, George gets into trouble and makes mistakes as children do...and it's a fun monkey.
Handy Manny- he is a guy who helps out all his neighbors...his tools talk and all have their own fears. they go fix the town together Also teaches some spanish words.
My children MAY NOT watch the following:
Dora/Diego: They can do nothing for themselves, Parents are almost never present....they are out wandering at 5 yrs old...and ALWAYS "need your help" I understand the idea behind this is to get the child active instead of sedentary in front of the television...yet the manner in which it is executed is poor, and teated children that they can do nothing on their own.
Calliou- He is a VERY whiney 4 yr old, who gets his way when he whines "but mommy" the argument FOR this show (that i've heard from parents) is that kids can relate to him, but it does not show the problem solving, only that whining gets you what you want.
Yo Gabba Gabba-- I think the show is horrible and pointless, colors moving....the messages in the songs are OK...BUT GET THE CD and dance along.
Sid the Science Kid--SOME shows are OK, others are absolutely NOT. If you feel strongly about Vaccines (for example) there is a vaccine special you may not want your child to see, I basically boycott this show for giving in to propaganda.
Max and Ruby- Ruby is a bossy brat...mom and dad are never around, and poor max get the blunt end of Ruby's dictating how for him to play. Grandma comes around occasionally but she does nothing about Ruby mistreating Max.
Special Agent OSO- OMG this show is ANNOYING!! there are "3 special steps" to everything, but its stupid stuff, and so extremely dumbed down, in one show the kid (like 8YO) wants to put on a bandaid but doesn't know how---shoot, my 2yo can put on a bandaid!!! this show is a pet peeve of mine!! IDK how it is still airing!
Spongebob- THIS IS NOT NOT NOT a kid show....that is all!
Occasionally OK:
Super Why- sounding out words, correcting stories and dilemmas, this one I like, but I feel that it dumbs down and under-estimates the young brain.
Mickey mouse club-house--this one I am indifferent about, I am not against the show but I do not really enjoy it...My 3 YO has learned to count by 10's from this one.
Monday, May 16, 2011
FAIL
OK So in my attempt to reduce the drama on FB I started a blog, but in order to get people to read my blog I posted it to FB....see the problem??
Passing the Buck
Many of my posts will be directly related to parenting, I am very passionate about parents actually acting like parents. In an attempt to be as minimally offensive as possible I will add a disclaimer that this is NOT directed at anyone in particular and is just my ramblings.
I most certainly advocate for directing and teaching your children to be contributing members of society. You cannot blame your child for their lack of behavior, or for not listening. That falls solely on the parents (or grandparents).
I once went to a pre-school function and one parent (if she can actually be called that) whined to the teacher "T's not listening" UMM Excuse me woman, he is YOUR son....Step up and act like it. Same mother on yet another occasion said "T needs a drink can you get him one!" yes the exclamation was correct there, it was not a question it was an annoyed statement as she sat on her butt and acted annoyed that the world was not catering to her.
In Goodwill, a 3 yr old and her mom are shopping, mom takes a phone call from dad and says "YOUR daughter isn't listening and won't leave the store" soon as the call is over she offers the child who is whining and crying and begging for a toy "I'll buy it if we leave now we are already late can we please go" this was NOT enough for this child....who insisted on yet another treat before she would head to the front of the store. In the end the child got 2 new toys AND still had to be dragged to the front of the store.
Yet another time more recently I was at the library and a mother with her child on a leash (keeping your child safe is one thing, but when they crawl on the floor like a puppy,you are yanking them back and they happen to be wearing wearing a toddler leash I will not refer to those in a polite manner) these are MUCH more civil they are just to save moms back from bending and are essentially like holding hands. Back to the point though, this leashed child was pulling at his harness and crying out as the mom pulled(well more yanked) him back and pleaded with him to stop. Perhaps if she had offered him a bone and barked "heel" at him she would have gotten a better response?? (ok that last part was a joke, but so was her "parenting" technique.)
And one last instance again the setting is the library, Grandma says "If you don't come on now we wont be able to come to the library again, we are leaving" GUESS WHAT the next friday they were there again.....SAME grandma says "I'm not going to chase you" as she chases her grandson through the library.
In the weeks to come I will be surveying school principals because someone brought to my attention that not parenting is not becoming more common, and I beg to differ. What would I know?!? I am only a mother and I only live in ONE area.....My goal is at least one principal in every state, If you have a particular school you would like me to call, name it in the comment section and I will research the number and call them.
I most certainly advocate for directing and teaching your children to be contributing members of society. You cannot blame your child for their lack of behavior, or for not listening. That falls solely on the parents (or grandparents).
I once went to a pre-school function and one parent (if she can actually be called that) whined to the teacher "T's not listening" UMM Excuse me woman, he is YOUR son....Step up and act like it. Same mother on yet another occasion said "T needs a drink can you get him one!" yes the exclamation was correct there, it was not a question it was an annoyed statement as she sat on her butt and acted annoyed that the world was not catering to her.
In Goodwill, a 3 yr old and her mom are shopping, mom takes a phone call from dad and says "YOUR daughter isn't listening and won't leave the store" soon as the call is over she offers the child who is whining and crying and begging for a toy "I'll buy it if we leave now we are already late can we please go" this was NOT enough for this child....who insisted on yet another treat before she would head to the front of the store. In the end the child got 2 new toys AND still had to be dragged to the front of the store.
Yet another time more recently I was at the library and a mother with her child on a leash (keeping your child safe is one thing, but when they crawl on the floor like a puppy,you are yanking them back and they happen to be wearing wearing a toddler leash I will not refer to those in a polite manner) these are MUCH more civil they are just to save moms back from bending and are essentially like holding hands. Back to the point though, this leashed child was pulling at his harness and crying out as the mom pulled(well more yanked) him back and pleaded with him to stop. Perhaps if she had offered him a bone and barked "heel" at him she would have gotten a better response?? (ok that last part was a joke, but so was her "parenting" technique.)
And one last instance again the setting is the library, Grandma says "If you don't come on now we wont be able to come to the library again, we are leaving" GUESS WHAT the next friday they were there again.....SAME grandma says "I'm not going to chase you" as she chases her grandson through the library.
In the weeks to come I will be surveying school principals because someone brought to my attention that not parenting is not becoming more common, and I beg to differ. What would I know?!? I am only a mother and I only live in ONE area.....My goal is at least one principal in every state, If you have a particular school you would like me to call, name it in the comment section and I will research the number and call them.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Consider Yourself Warned!!
I have thoughts!! Big surprise huh? Point being I annoy people on a somewhat regular basis. If you are easily bothered by those who think differently than yourself this is not a good read for you. HOWEVER if you can understand that however cool your thoughts may be that some peoples thoughts differ from yours. And can engage civilly if you wish to disagree please continue.
I have been told I need to sugar-coat things, or say them in a round about way....well guess what, I haven't the slightest clue how to actually do that! So...all shields are down, the attempted filters are out and here are my pure somewhat abrasive thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
I have been told I need to sugar-coat things, or say them in a round about way....well guess what, I haven't the slightest clue how to actually do that! So...all shields are down, the attempted filters are out and here are my pure somewhat abrasive thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
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